ProBride: Picking Out the Right Wedding Dress
As a Bride:
After booking the appointments at the bridal shops, my next biggest concern was who do I bring with me? I know my sister, my Maid of Honor, would come as well as my mom. But, should I bring anyone else? What about my future mother-in-law? I did feel that was appropriate and did reach out to her. Unfortunately, our schedules did not mesh and that led me to inviting my aunt. I don’t know why I thought I wanted to have a larger “judges panel” – I guess I saw it that way every time I would turn on “Say Yes to The Dress”. The bride would invite her whole bridal party. (I didn’t go in that direction because I knew with all of our different schedules that one of the girls would be left out and I didn’t want anyone to feel that way.) However,
I did feel like I needed 3-4 people to be there to help me choose… In my opinion, that was a mistake.
Picking out a wedding dress isn’t always easy. You might like a dress and come out with the biggest smile on your face and half of your “judges panel” would be smiling, while the other half would have a look of disgust as if you had a garbage bag on. I found out soon enough that my aunt loved every dress I put on… sure, it was nice to hear, but after a while, you couldn’t take her seriously.
I went into wedding dress shopping open minded. I am a size 12, with a small bust and thicker mid section. I really didn’t know what would look good on me. I wanted the bridal consultant to be the expert and find me the perfect dress. Honestly, this is the best advice I can suggest: go in open minded. That way, you have more choices and that gives the consultant the chance to really evaluate what styles will look best on you. You definitely don’t want to be one of those brides that look awful in her dress.
For me, it took 4 bridal shops and about 30 dresses before I found “the one”. I loved it in the fitting room – a fit and flare (not mermaid), with vintage rhinestone beading along the bottom and into the train, corset back, sweetheart neckline also embellished with rhinestones, in a beautiful ivory satin. I was really excited but knew this search was 29 dresses in and I was a little afraid of what my mom and sister thought (we left my aunt at home this time). I came out and looked directly into the mirror and heard nothing from the “panel”. I slowly turned around and saw my sister crying and my mom with the biggest smile on her face…we had found the dress! In retrospect, even though I thought I had tough judges, they were honest, knew me, and my style to make sure I got the perfect dress. It wasn’t easy at times but it was totally worth it!
As a Planner:
Two pieces of advice:
1. Be sure to bring the people closest to you. Try not to make your “judges panel” too large – with size comes many different opinions. Keep it small and keep it honest.
2. Go into dress shopping open minded. It might take a little longer to find the dress. But when you do find it, it means so much more. I have to admit, even though I bought my dress in August 2013 and I am not getting married until December 2014, I am having no regrets and my eyes don’t even wander to other dresses. I am completely happy with my decision!
Farrah is a Certified Professional Wedding and Event Planner (CPWEP).
Her company Simply Azure Events helps brides create stress free breath taking weddings.